If there is anything in the world I have ZERO TOLERANCE for then there is bullying!
It can destroy every human being, not just when the bullying is on but in hindsight!
Many are struggling to feel valuable in retrospect and it goes far beyond the self, especially if the bullying was to be called ugly things.
I myself was bullied for three years (since I was 12 years to 15 years there by some of my classmates), both physical and mental, in retrospect, I worked a lot with myself to feel that I am valuable and pretty since bullies said I was so ugly and not valuable.
The bullying went on for three full years, from when I was 12-15 years and it is the yeara you forms yourselves and find out who you are in the world!
Especially remember one time I was in confirmation classes with the ” my friends” and it was a lot of snow that day (stayed at Tonstad in Trondheim (Norway)
Remember once when I had drama hours and the teacher was gone and I was going to find me a costume in the costume room and then came 2 boys I went to school with in the room and locked the door and one boy held me down and other boy pulled down his pants and boxer and tried to sit on my face!
I went with bullying home from confirmation classes and then they threw many hard snowballs at me, not just in time but maybe up to four at once and more pushed my head under the snow and held my head under the snow a long time, I got the whole panic because I did not get to breathe and was scared that i was going to die!
When I finally managed to get the air so I tried to get as quickly as possible back home in my safe home with Mom and Dad! They asked me what had happened and so “strong” that I should be so I just said that I and my classmates had snowball fights!
I was bullied for my ears that stick out slightly so the bullies said I’d need to fix my ears with a tape on my ear to my head so it dont stick out!
Another time a girl I went to school with said i was a racist because I could not have her visiting on the day we were having family dinner!
And in the evening when I had a birthday, I invited “someone who I thought were my friends” but everything they tried to do was to raze my room! Mamma facilitate the entire 3 days of school books, shoes and my clothes! Found finally everything under the mattress on my bed!
I would not say anything to my dad and mom that I was bullied because I felt I’d like to be “STRONG” an handle all by myself.
One day I got enough of all the bullying so I came home to my mom and was completely devestaded (do not remember exactly what caused the cup to overflow) and told Mom everything that I had been trough and my mom said she’d had her suspicions she had tried to ask me for over a year but I said that everything was just fine and that I thrived at school and not had been bulled
When I had told everything to my mom and dad so they demanded a meeting with the principal and my teachers at school, I remember, Mom and Dad were very miserable after the meeting
because the only thing the principal said was that she did not think I was bullied and that this school is without bullying! Dad and Mom were considering going to the local newspaper (adressa) to tell my story about how this school tackled that one of the students was bullied!
I believed that the teachers and principal are there to be able to talk about feeling like you do not have it all right at school but i got surprised to reaction to the principal when she said that AT MY SCHOOL THERE IS NO BULLYING, BULLY-FREE-SCHOOL! It says the principal who just sitting in meetings and in the office all day long!
When they (mom and dad) found out that they did not reach further with the principal, they began to look for another town that we could move to so I could get better!
When the choice fell on Ålesund (Sula) have never regretted that we moved there! Got my friends pretty fast and felt immediately included by classmates, teachers and principal.
I worked a lot with myself after the bullying and when I look back as it is I who really made something out of my life !!! not only do I have an education that I am very proud of! but I have also hijacked dream job on Gran Canaria! There were 86 applicants and I was one of the 8 who got the job! I have many good friends in Norway and on Gran Canaria! I keep getting compliment by people both known/unknown that I smile and cheerful all the time and always look on the positive side of things! I know it’s easy when Bullying can just put on a fake smile and just pretend everything is perfect but in retrospect you get the better of speaking out about it! Is there anything life has shown / taught me so it is: YOU JUST GETS STRONGER OF WHAT YOU HAVE LEARN!
I would recommend you who are/have been bullied of someone to tell someone you trust (friends, family, girlfriend, family) I can promise you that it’s much better to get talked out than to keep it all inside ♡